I Don’t Know Where To Start


So, there is something you really want to do, you can’t seem to get yourself to do it because you don’t know where to start? I get it, starting something new can be terrifying and a bit overwhelming. I honestly didn’t know where to start with this blog post, I kinda just started writing knowing that something would come out of me onto the page. That’s pretty much how I’ve done everything that I do, the ole “say yes and figure it out later” mentality.

When I wanted to start this blog, for example, it started with an initial feeling of overwhelm followed by a few simple steps that helped me get over the fear of starting. I recently decided I’m going to write a book and I found myself following this same set of steps and thought to myself, “I should share this.” So, here they are:

Decide –

Decide exactly what you want to do, you will never get out of life what you don’t ask for. Then, commit fully, a half assed commitment is a waste of your time. If you’re just going to dip your toes in and see what it’s like you might as well stick to the kiddie pool. A half assed commitment gives you room to back out without any bruises to your ego. The way I see it, doing something full out and failing isn’t necessarily a failure – because throughout the process you will win in experience.

Google Search –

I know this sounds silly, but it’s amazing the things you can find on the Internet! Start to gather as much information as you can, but the key is to not let the info overwhelm you. Get a feel for what you’re up against and the different steps you’ll have to take. Do not, and I repeat, do not let anything scare you off. If you have truly committed to step number one then I’m not worried about you. I promise you that you can figure out how or find someone to help you do whatever you set your mind on accomplishing.

Learn from other people’s mistakes –

If you can meet with someone who has done what you want to do, this is IDEAL. Even just a quick conversation over coffee can be helpful. I love asking people what mistakes they made along the way that I could avoid. When I first started this blog I met my friend Caroline for coffee. She started a blog a year prior and was full of information that helped me out initially – which website host to use, how she built her own website which gave me the confidence to believe I could too, and even a link to a blog series that walked me step-by-step through how to start a blog.

Invest in yourself –

This goes hand in hand with learning from other people’s experience. Books, audiobooks, webinars or seminars can get really expensive. But, if someone who is knowledgeable in what you are interested in took time to put his or her experiences into a book, for example, the value of that book is not the $14.99 you spent on the book, the value is the years of experience you will be exposing yourself too. (If you’re really tight on money, no excuses, podcasts are free)

Do something –

Now that you’ve taken a few steps, and feel a bit more comfortable, it’s time to actually do something. Oh sh**, scary. Ask yourself, “What is the simplest thing I can do to move in the right direction?” When it came to starting this blog the simplest thing I could find to do was to start posting a photo every day. Even that seemed daunting, my life felt pretty boring, what in the hell would I take photos of? But, once I committed to doing it things began to flow – I was invited on trips, got myself out of the house more, honestly started enjoying life a bit more. Finding things to photograph oddly brought more joy and appreciation to my life, I began seeking out and attracting more experiences.

Take the next step –

A funny thing happens when you take the first step, the next step appears. It always does, without fail. I promise.

Put it out there BEFORE it’s perfect – 

If you keep waiting to put it out there until everything is perfect, you never will. I tweaked my website for almost 3 weeks before Blake said to me, “it’s never going to be perfect just launch it!” And he was right – I launched and have just made minor changes along the way. Most of the time “I want it to be perfect,” is just code for I’m a chicken sh** and I’m scared of what people will think. Launch it, baby.

After that, it’s really just putting one foot in front of the other.